Reblogged excerpt from: The Top 10 List For Creating Healthy Kids | This Emotional Life.
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Children are sponges. As cliché as it may sound, there isn’t a better visual metaphor. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and as a parent of two children, it is my opinion that today’s society is still in need of educating parents about the profound necessity for secure attachments between a parent and a child.
What many parents don’t realize, based on countless research and books, is that the kind of attachment between a parent and child will pave the way for how well that child will function as an adult in a relationship. Dr. Daniel Siegel, author and founder of the Mindsight Institute, breaks down the four types of attachments:
Securely attached – Emotionally available, perceptive, responsive
Insecure/Avoidantly attached – Emotionally unavailable, imperceptive, unresponsive and rejecting
Insecure/Anxious/Ambivalently attached – inconsistently available, perceptive and responsive, and intrusive