When Being Highly Sensitive Hurts – The Captains Lady. (re-blogged)
What is Stress, Anyway?
Stress is considered any event, action, or thought that requires that we change or adapt. Stress causes over-arousal. Emotional and physical stress, real or imagined, can cause a host of symptoms including chronic pain, anxiety, depression, and panic disorder. Stress can be caused by personal, physical or environmental factors. When you’re a Highly Sensitive Woman, life can make you feel like you always have to ‘walk on egg shells’.
Not all Highly Sensitive People suffer from stress syndromes, although many do. Some of us may be more sensitive to the foods we eat, personal hygiene products, toxins, chemicals, medications, or our environments (electromagnetic energy fields, molds, pollens, cleaning products, and synthetic materials). For others, deep emotions that can’t be faced or felt may surface as physical symptoms as an expression of our hidden emotions. Financial problems, a car accident, a divorce, losing a job, a child, or a beloved pet will impact anyone to some degree of stress, even physical stress. This is even more true for you.
I offer you all-natural remedies to prevent, manage, and even erase stressful symptoms and syndromes related to negative emotions and trauma. It took me half a lifetime to discover I was born a Highly Sensitive Person. Today, you may be discovering this for yourself, for the very first time. I want you to know you are not alone.
Personal (emotional) stress is most often self-imposed by negative thought patterns and discontent. Negative relationships, loud neighbors, hyperactive children (and adults), argumentative personalities, and negative attitudes in general can also quickly exhaust your energy reserves. Other causes of stress are negative thinking, perfectionism, victim mentality, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). These latter two are often related to trauma and abuse. Negative emotions play a huge role in sickness and dis-ease, due to the impact negative emotions have on the immune system.
Energy, whether positive or negative, roams around your body looking for an exit. Without finding one it builds up like hot air in a balloon, creating pressure and powerful symptoms. Giving your energy something to do will help to keep you calm by push it outward in positive activities. We Highly Sensitive People share characteristics with those considered psychic and easily pick up on the vibrations of other people, things and places. It is common to become overloaded and overwhelmed with your own or another’s emotions, pain, and problems. These kinds of sensitivities, often misunderstood, can lead to anxiety attack and avoidance behaviors.
Up to 50% of all physical stress is actually caused more by physical factors relating to diet and nutrition. Without giving your body proper nutrition, it has no way to defend itself physically or mentally. This can lead to spiritual decline. Eating food that is bad for you, or not eating enough, isn’t healthy. It only serves to raise the levels of your cortisol and other stress hormones, which leads to anxiety, stress syndromes, illness, and disease. When you take steps to manage the physical side of your life through diet and environment over 50% of stress disappears.
Loud noise, harsh smells, extreme temperatures, bright and vivid colors, motions, crowds, TVs, stereo systems, computers, computer games, loud appliances, synthetic fabrics, chemicals, toxins, molds, pollens, air pollution, and pet dander and are just a few examples of things that cause you environmental stress.
Another Kind of Stress
There is a kind of stress that many don’t realize or discuss, but it needs mentioning. Under-arousal is also a problem for Highly Sensitive People. Sometimes, in life, it is not the stress of the things that are going on and happening in your life, but the stress of what is not going on or not happening. When you become bored with what you are doing, experiencing, or living, and don’t feel you have an outlet for your energy (sensitive people are extremely creative), it causes tremendous stress. Continually being bored and without stimulation is no less than drudgery. If you are in a relationship, either, at home and at work, that could be defined by the statement above, you need a change. Boredom ends in drudgery and drudgery will make you lose contact with your values and who you are, which will only cause you to become bored, which causes more drudgery. It is a vicious circle leading to burn out and a sense of uselessness, a feeling of lack of purpose, and hopelessness. Boredom and drudgery, when ongoing, causes depression and physical dis-ease.
How the HSPs Nervous System Reacts to Stress
How you react to stress is not just a result of your mental outlook or your genes. It is both. However, the single, most common denominator of all stress symptoms and dis-ease is energy imbalance. There are 11 systems in the human body that can be affected by stress, the circulatory, digestive, endrocrine, immune, lymphatic, muscular, skeletal, nervous, respiratory, reproductive, and urinary systems. These systems work together to keep you healthy and well. They are interconnected and depend on one another, and you, in keeping you healthy. These 11 systems depend on two things, your chakras (energy centers) shining brightly and your energy meridians running smoothly.
There are 7 major energy centers running along your spine from the top of your head to your tailbone. Each center corresponds to a particular color. There are 12 major energy meridians that act as a personal electrical grid throughout your body. Energy blockages or obstacles along your spine or throughout your grid caused by emotional stress, poor diet, pH imbalance, interrupted sleep, bad relationships, chemicals, EMFs, drugs, surgeries, and trauma create disturbances in your energy system, or aura. These same blockages or obstacles determine how your sensitivities might manifest emotionally and physically. Low energy, fatigue, aches and pains, stress syndromes, auto-immune disorders, illness and, finally, disease are symptoms of a distressed aura, or energy system. Since each of us are unique in our strengths and weaknesses, our symptoms differ individually.
Corresponding Physical Reactions to Stress
Lungs: Grief and sadness.
Feet: Having trouble standing up for what we believe in.
Neck problems: The heart and mind not bridged in alignment.
Shoulders: Bearing burdens and the weight of the world alone.
Eyes: Having no insight toward our purpose in life while on earth.
Back and Legs: Being financially or emotionally unsupported.
Stomach: Feeling as though or believing you have no control.
Knees: Facing difficulty surrendering to a higher will.
Liver: Carrying around anger.
RESISTANCE is STRESS’s Best Friend
When we resist our own sensitive natures and try to be the person that everyone else wants or expects us to be, it creates tension and pain, both emotionally and physically. You have the right to provide a life for yourself that feels safe and is otherwise rich in the ability to grow, which offers self-esteem, and the option to pursue your greatest passions.
Is it Stress or Something Else?
It has to be stated that it is extremely important you rule out illness or disease if you are having symptoms you don’t understand. However, if your doctor keeps giving you a clean bill of health, and nothing is ever found wrong with you, time after time, you will have to consider that it may be emotional or environmental stress causing your physical symptoms and stress is winning the battle.
Not all symptoms lead to illness, even though all illness will eventually lead to symptoms. This means that even though you may be experiencing symptoms, you may not have an illness at all. This can be important information for those who fear illness is the cause of their stressful symptoms
When a symptom, or group of symptoms, have no apparent cause, they are called a syndrome, meaning there is no cause. Medically speaking, your symptoms or conditions are considered idiopathic, meaning it arose from an unknown cause. For most of us, that term just makes us feel like our doctors are saying we have idiot’s disease. Of course there is a cause!
Love & Joy: The Two Missing Dynamics That Often Cause Extreme Stress in HSW
If love and joy are missing from your life for a prolonged period of time, your energy levels will suffer and you will become dis-eased. HSW could probably go longer without food than without love. And, it isn’t just love from others that I am speaking of, although that is an important factor. Self-love has to exist as well. When you love yourself, wellness follows. Often, men are often uncomfortable thinking in terms of ‘self-love’, but it is an important element of wellness and cannot be overlooked.
If you experience no love and joy in life, you are being held back from living. You feel darkness closing in fast. You are like a flower with no water, your life dried up and short lived.
Enjoy the simple things in life, a golden sunset, a puppy bounding clumsily across the grass, or cuddling beside a loved one during a movie. These things, love and joy, are as necessary to energy wellness as healthy food, good sleep and plenty of exercise.
The Top Syndromes Highly Sensitive People Often Face & Doctors Have a Hard Time Treating, If At All
1. Adrenal Burnout Syndrome
Having trouble with tiredness, fatigue, easily startled (jumpiness), brain fog, and sleep problems? An increase in a particular stress hormone could underlie all of your symptoms.
2. Burning Mouth Syndrome (BMS)
Have a burning sensation, or stinging, of the tongue, gums or upper throat as if it was, indeed, burned.
3. Chronic Pain & Headache
Do you have headaches, neck or back pain, muscle ache, joint pain, arthritis, stomach pain, or roaming aches and pains.
4. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
Do tiredness and exhaustion keep you from activities more so than pain? Stress hormones could be the underlying factor.
5. Dry Mouth Syndrome
Do you have dry eyes, mouth or nose on a regular or recurring basis? Discover the causes.
6. Fibromyalgia Syndrome (FS)
Do you have widespread pain in the muscles, joints and tissues that limit your activities more so than fatigue. Have you been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia due to tenderpoints? Fibromyalgia is often confused with another syndrome that also has tenderpoints.
7. Irritable Bowel and/or Bladder Syndrome (IBS)
Do you experience pain, gas, bloating, indigestion, acid reflux, constipation and/or diarrhea (or alternating), frequent urination, bladder pain, or incontinence? This one, single, side-effect free supplement may erase all your woes and keep you from having to map out restrooms.
8. Sleep Disorders, SAD & RLS
Is your sleep disrupted with cessation of breathing, snoring, jerky movements, insomnia or wakefulness, nightmares, restless legs, etc.?
9. Tinnitus, Meniere’s & Dizziness
Are you distressed by fullness, ringing, buzzing, pulsating, or whirring noises in your ear(s) or loss of hearing.
10. Vaginitis (Yeast, Candida), Bacterial Vaginosis & Herpes
Ladies, have you been troubled with vaginal itching, pain, discharge, odor, irritation, rawness, or pain during intercourse? Have you been to the doctor and nothing helps.
11. Anxiety & Phobias – Depression Too!
Anxious? Nervous? Depressed? Having panic attacks or agoraphobia? Calming your emotional ‘fish’ will eliminate your panic and anxiety.